How-to-love is based on The Way of the greatest master of relationships known to humankind–Jesus of Nazareth.
debra a. harris, PH.D. lmft
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“Love is to hold someone or something in such high regard that you make the necessary sacrafice
—radical acceptance–
to stay connected to that person or thing.”
–Debra A. Harris (2019)
To love is to radically accept others just as they are: using care, consideration, and compassion. With this kind of positive regard, the intention is to make the necessary sacrifice to maintain the connection–the relationship.
To love effectively is to regard your relationship as more important than any form of division. Divisions are real but can be better managed if we can see clearly that they are ego-propelled illusions.
Hello Everyone,
Click the link below to complete the H2L Believer Self-reflection Scale (BSRS). After you’re done, comment on my YouTube Channel. I truly want to know what you think.
https://howtolove.us/believer-scale
How-to-Love Scenario: Will & Jada Smith
Notice that I did not say that I was upset with Jada for not being appreciative of Will’s selfish (her word) gesture. My only explanation has to be that I am her in this case. I can be very selfish in my “not being impressed with stuff” way. I am learning (at this writing) that this behavior puts a wedge between me and my beloveds. Take my word, I’m working on it and it’s working! Final note: how-to-love is radical acceptance of others–what they do, how they give, and everything in between.
SistuhTalk:
Listen to the audio narratives below to get a sample of where I’m coming from with my How to Love vision.
Conclusion:
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